tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9017488281418603767.post8270003089700377921..comments2023-03-25T05:07:42.440-06:00Comments on The Willford Family: My big debate...Michellehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10969268214137270934noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9017488281418603767.post-55524473331074007692008-04-21T21:06:00.000-06:002008-04-21T21:06:00.000-06:00I'll just ditto the other comments - they were ver...I'll just ditto the other comments - they were very well said. The decisions we make regarding our children are always some of the most difficult. I'll be praying for you.Kathy Whittlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17303767077477040157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9017488281418603767.post-16339040977771818882008-04-21T19:33:00.000-06:002008-04-21T19:33:00.000-06:00Perhaps I am just naive--but I would think that if...Perhaps I am just naive--but I would think that if there is a medication that will help him FUNCTION and carry out as normal life as possible, it should be used. To me it is like being in serious pain--wouldn't you use a pain reliever? I think upping the dose is only natural since he IS getting older/growing. It is definitely hard since you and Mark are on opposing sides.<BR/><BR/>I agree with everyone else though--get on the same side and I think things will start to work out. Sometimes we look for a miracle like in the days of old--when really the miracle might just be modern day medicine...just a thought.Rachel Hollowayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02906959500907191201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9017488281418603767.post-50588563092807480922008-04-21T17:37:00.000-06:002008-04-21T17:37:00.000-06:00Have you considered discussing this with your bish...Have you considered discussing this with your bishop? I'm not saying that in a "you have sinned and must repent" way at all, but in a "you need guidance and spiritual counsel, and you need to learn that, yes, you are a good mother" sort of way. He can help you sort through your feelings, help you know what the church's stance is on medications for mental and behavioral issues, and basically provide some good counsel. This meeting could be with Mark in attendance as well. And I agree with the other comments so far - discuss with all involved parties what options you have, but in the end you and Mark are the only ones who can make this decision, mostly you because you're the one who deals with him more.Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12591387295768935118noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9017488281418603767.post-61574133784453717052008-04-21T17:20:00.000-06:002008-04-21T17:20:00.000-06:00For sure the advice Ashley gave is what I would sa...For sure the advice Ashley gave is what I would say. I had 2 kids on medication. No one else knows the hell you deal with making those choices and how your life is altered by meds or the lack thereof. You aren't locked in, regardless of what you choose right now. Take things one day at a time and be sure you include Heavenly Father...he knows each of our needs very personally. Also, don't be afraid to look into other methods of help. Homeopathic, chiropractic, different therapies. Remember also that no one cares as much about your children as you do, you are always their best advocate.Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13204327706058006786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9017488281418603767.post-73913126424275626072008-04-21T16:53:00.000-06:002008-04-21T16:53:00.000-06:00Wow...you have some big decisions to make. I thin...Wow...you have some big decisions to make. I think that what is important is that you and Mark come to common ground and make the decision together through fasting and prayer. It will make it so much harder if you guys aren't on the same page. Maybe (if you haven't all ready) both you and Mark should sit down with teachers and with the doctors and discuss your concerns. Don't worry about other people judging you. The only thing that matters is that you and Mark are doing what is best for Oren, regardless of what anybody (except our Father in Heaven think). I have had one instance in my life where some people did not agree with how I was handling a situation and they passed some very HARSH judgments. However, in my heart, I knew it was what needed to be done. Looking back, I am so glad I stuck with what I knew I needed to do, no matter what anybody else thought. Good luck on figuring it all out!J & A Daneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15711564528639828883noreply@blogger.com